youngblackandvegan:

When people tell stories about how their parents beat them, it’s always interesting to see their face change because they expected me to say “me too lol” but I instead say “I’m really sorry. You didn’t deserve that”
Last time a co worker who also has West Indian parents was telling me in a joking way how he remembers being beaten with a belt because lied about his report card. As he was laughing it off and saying he deserved it, I just said “wow that’s awful hun. You didn’t deserve that.” And his whole face changed. Like it hadn’t occurred to him that it’s messed up that a part of remembering his childhood is remembering how badly it hurt to be beaten so badly at such a young age.
Another time I had a friend, non West Indian parents, who talked about how she made a mess on a dress that her parents got her. It was really expensive apparently and she spilled red juice on it. She talked about how she was ordered to take the dress of and was beaten with a belt too without any clothes on. And she was laughing and said “I was a bad ass kid lol” and I said “no hun you were just a kid”. And she looked at me and immediately stopped laughing and just sat there like “yea…I was just a kid. I don’t know why they did that to me”
My mom was raised in a household where she was beaten so badly….I just don’t understand how she is so loving now growing up in a home where she got so little love. They called it discipline, but once she became a social worker she began to see that it was abuse. That she grew up terrified of her parents, although they thought it was respect that my mom felt. It was fear.
We have to get comfortable challenging what is often seen as cultural norms. We have to be a generation of people who are not ashamed to say “I would never beat my child”.

transpanpat:

eltigrechico:

SHOCKER!! Turns out that small and vulnerable children being physically attacked by the large and strong adults they most love and trust in this world has negative effects. Who knew?

also, thanks to @thedoomreport for this link

I’m adding onto this by providing the PDF of the actual study (thanks to still being able to access the journal post-graduation) and uploaded it to google docs here 

So if you want the exact source, it is there (and without paying a dime and you can download it as well!!

ninatastic:

noahwolfwise:

king-wewuz:

@crashington

@ninatastic

money 👏 doesn’t 👏 earn 👏 itself

malfxoys:

malfxoys:

so today a public health official guy came into my class to give a lecture on disaster awareness and he was talking about house fires and mentioned that the reason people most likely die during a house fire is because they refuse to leave their pet inside or they go back to get their pet. and right when he said this my friend immediately turned his head and looked at me and in that moment I had the most complete and genuine acceptance take over my body. I would 100% in front of my family and Jesus himself walk straight back into some raging inferno that was once my house to go get my fat cat. I nodded back

the best part of this post is reading all the tags from animal people who would also go back to save their pets. like no hesitation. walk backwards from heaven straight back into hell. someone even said they would go back for their fish. amazing

useless-germanyfacts:

there’s quite a lot actually that happened today:

• Nov 9, 1313: Battle of Gammelsdorf - Louis IV defeats his cousin Frederick the Fair

• Nov 9, 1848: execution of Robert Blum (a german politician) - it’s said to mark the beginning of the end of the March Revolution in 1848/49
  

• Nov 9, 1914: Sinking of the SMS Emden
  

• Nov 9, 1918: German Revolution [1918/19] in Berlin
  

• Nov 9, 1923: Munich Putsch
  

• Nov 9, 1925: Hitler imposes the formation of the Schutzstaffel (SS)
  

• Nov 9, 1936: National Socialists remove the memorial of composer Felix Mendelssohn  Bartholdy  
  

• Nov 9, 1938: Pogrom Night
  

• Nov 9, 1939: Abduction of two british officiers from the Secret Intelligence Service by the SS in Venio, Netherlands
  

• Nov 9, 1948: Berlin Blockade - mayor Ernst Reuter delivers a speech
  

• Nov 9, 1955: Federal Contitutional Court decision: all Austrians who have acquired german citizenship through annexation in 1938, automatically lost it after Austria became sovereign again
  

• Nov 9, 1967: Students show a banner (”Unter den Talaren – Muff von 1000 Jahren”) and it becomes one of the main symbols of the Movement of 1968 (the German Student  Movement)
  

• Nov 9, 1969: the radical left-winged organization “Tupamaros West-Berlin” hides a bomb in the jewish community house in Berlin. It never exploded though.
  

• Nov 9, 1974: RAF-member Holger Meins dies after 58 days of hunger striking
  

• Nov 9, 1989: Fall of the Berlin Wall
  

gwendolencorday:

I don’t even get this excited about my own birthday.

screamforsirius:

HAPPY BIRTHDAY OSCAR WILDE (1854- 1900)

theworldofcinema:

_{Ray: Bruges is a shithole.
Ken: Bruges is not a shithole.
Ray: Bruges is a shithole.
Ken: Ray, we’ve only just got off the fucking train. Could we reserve judgement on Bruges until we’ve seen the fucking place?
Ray: I know it’s gonna be a shithole.}

language-obsession:

IT’S A FRIDAY NIGHT SO LET’S TURN UP the volume so that I can practice listening comprehension and then proceed to practice vocabulary on memrise